Keeping open lines of communication with your children is essential. While suicide is the worst possible outcome, just being a part of their lives and keeping up on their day in and day out activities is essential. Many parents feel the same way.
The child — mother relationship is complex. It is in the teenage years, as children grow into adults, that many deviate and take actions that they hide from their parents sometimes for the rest of their lives. Then not only as teenagers, but as independent adults there are many facets that people decide to keep secret.
I'm in a wonderful position to tell you about the secrets that your teens keep from you as long as you promise not to divulge your source. I have worked with teens for over twenty years in my role as a psychologist, and they tell me their secrets in my office. So sit down, read on, and you too will be in the know.
Most adults who ask kids to keep secrets have good intentions. But unfortunately, there are is a small population of people who prey on children and their predatory success depends on their ability to tell a child to keep their unsavory behavior a deep, dark secret. Make it clear to your child that in your home, you don't keep secrets.
That said, real life tragedies in our communities—and those on shows like "13 Reasons Why"—really hit home and remind us that some of the hardest things to talk about are actually the most important. While the Netflix hit show has everyone talking about teen suicide and assault, we also need to be talking more about how to improve communication between teens and the adults who can actually help them. Check them out below, and learn how you can help bridge the gap.
Verified by Psychology Today. Youth and Tell. Parents are typically shocked when they discover that their teen is keeping secrets from them.
Adult supervision casts a long shadow over children now — to and from school, in the playground, in sport and at other leisure activities. Horror stories such as the one that bereaved mother Lorin LaFave has been recounting in the media recently about her year-old son Breck being groomed at home in Surrey by an online gamer before being lured to his death, would seem to justify total paranoia. Giving children the space to hold on to harmless secrets, the confidence to share risky ones with adults and the ability to tell the difference between the two is quite a challenge.
I have been talking to your teens for over two decades. Even though trends and styles may change, teens still have the same concerns and the same secrets that they would like you to know, but just don't feel comfortable telling you. Sharing concerns remains so non-teenage.
Everyone has a secret or two, especially in their teenage years. Unfortunately, parents know everything. Those little secrets you were confident your parents would never find out about?
At Family Zone, our mission is to help parents keep their children safe online. Part of the job of our Cyber Experts is to keep you up to date on the latest apps, sites and online trends amongst kids and teens. Ghost Accounts. Finding out whether your child has a ghost account can be very difficult, depending on how well hidden it is.